Are men afraid of me? Why is it, that I never get the guy that I, in fact really want?
What is so wrong with me! I'm nearly 21, a virgin, and an actual decent person. The guys that I always find attractive, and that I always have mutual chemistry with, almost always end up already having a girlfriend. which in any case, leaves me heart broken falling for someone who is already taken that I can never have or he'll almost never make a move. The guys that do approach me or usually twice my age, lazy and don't value me as worth taking seriously, or are guys who I have no attraction/chemistry with. Why? I'll never put a guy down or dismiss the courage it takes, because I'm sure it never gets any easier for men to approach a girl, but I'm tired of being the girl who always finishes last. What the hell! Is the problem me? Am I not good enough? Are men afraid of me? Should I just jump off a bridge? Or are these men just punks/losers? Any thoughts, tips, experiences, and/or stories are all welcomed!
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Most Helpful Opinion
Because you are still pretty young, it might be that the men you are interested in are looking for easy girls to play with. They might (rightly) assume that you should be treated with more respect than that. Just focus on becoming the woman you ultimately want to be and trust that when the right guys comes along, you will be ready.
Good women are few, and the number of guys that want to date them are many. There is nothing wrong with you. And there is nothing wrong with being selective. Be patient. Flirt every now and then: it's good for you. And just trust that the right guy will come.
And the more you socialize with groups of guys that you find attractive, the more likely you will pair up with a good guy. So go out and socialize more. It has the added bonus of keeping you from getting bored or lonely.
What Guys Said 2
Sounds like simple bad luck to me. Just don't give up. Do you approach guys ever? If not try that. You might end up picking the right guy that way.
What Girls Said 2
Most guys your age are not looking for anything serious. and you seem to be the type of girl that is suited for serious commitment. If I was a 21 year old guy I would be your friend but that's it because I'm trying to get laid and you're not with that. You might have better luck if you look at guys in the 26-32 age range because they're more likely to want to settle down because they're out of that party mode.
BTW project confidence in your body language and dress really cute. Surround yourself around the men you want to be approached by and do things that interest you
I'm in exactly the same position.
I have no advice for you really, other than to keep on keeping on. Keep going and don't let this spoil any potential relationships.
I have found someone I'm really interested in but he's extremely confusing and mysterious and you're never really sure what he thinks. Worst part is, he's moving away in 10 days and off to university pretty soon too, so hey I always finish last too.