At what point is it OK to call a girl just to talk?

Talk as in have a conversation with them - not just call to arrange a date.

Basically, I feel like that's not something most guys would do when first meeting a girl like before a first date even. As you get to know each other better, talking on the phone is obviously acceptable.

My question - where do you draw the line?

  • From the moment you exchange numbers
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  • After a first date
    40% (61)30% (24)37% (85)Vote
  • Other/Explain below
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Most Helpful Girl

  • What's the point of exchanging numbers if you are not going to talk? Of course you can call to chat as soon as you have exchanged numbers. Just go for it, what is the worse thing that could happen? Her not answering your call

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What Girls Said 20

  • Depends, but I like when we talk almost directly after we exchange numbers. I accidentally voted for B, but I meant A!

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  • Well..some people give out numbers just to be friendly...and make friends. But, I would say..that it depends on how you interracted with her. If you both were flirtatious and she said "give me a call sometime"..that might be different. However, I would start out by texting her first. Then gradually move the relationship from texting to talking on the phone. That is what I prefer when a guy is interested in me. It's a much easier way to get to know someone..I think..

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  • My boyfriend and I were talking the next day after we met. It helped us grow closer, especially since with our busy schedules, we hardly saw each other, granted we didn't become official for about a month after meeting, but we talked nearly every day, even when I went on vacation with fam.

    Talking will show her you're interested and that you want to get to know her. Dates don't have to be the only ground for your relationship growing, take advantage of having her number...just don't abuse it. lol. ;)

    For the record, my boyfriend was the first to call me the next morning after our first date and we've been together for over a year now and going strong. :) So go ahead and call.

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  • you should have called her a week ago...FOR SHAME!

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  • Uhm, my guess:

    Talk from the moment you exchange numbers. If you like her at the end of the phone call, ask her on a date... (So yes, that's before the first date. You know what you're getting yourself into, she knows it and you have a good reason to ask her.)

    But maybe that's just my stupid, teenage opinion...

    Although I'd like it if a guy talked to me before he asked me on a date, though. (And I mean more words than when you ask for someone's number... xD)

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  • I think that there's nothing wrong with calling a girl after you get her phone number. When you do that you get some kind of idea of what you're about to get into. If you just go for the date before you start talking to her, you might be a little suprised if there's some things you might have wanted to know about her before asking her on the date.

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  • I think it depends how well you got to know each other before exchanging numbers. If you bumped into each other on the street and talked for a few minutes and then got the numbers, you should go on a few dates before calling just to talk. If you became friends at work etc. and then exchanged numbers, calling just to talk would probably be fine.

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    • What about if you just met a girl at a party, talk for a bit, then exchange numbers before leaving?

    • I think that unless you have talked to someone on multiple days and actually gotten to know them a bit, to the point where you feel like they're an actual friend, calling just to talk would be a bit out of place.

  • It depends on a series of factors. If you know the girl then by all means if you want to call her immediately after you get her number do so. If you just meet her it depends on what your accounter was like. If you were able to talk for awhile or even hours then you can go ahead and call her. But if it was a quick convo followed by an exchange of phone numbers I suggest you wait.

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  • I think that it is appropriate after two or three dates.

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  • After you have texted for a while. Waiting till after a date is a little long I think but if you text like non-stop for three days then go for it!

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  • It's much better after date, so you can have much more topic to talk with her about during date.

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  • I don't see a reason you shouldn't call. I mean she gave you the numbee and there isn't a time frame in it lol. However I'm sure you shouldn't call 5mins after just tlking with her :))

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  • you should establish a friendship first I think, that's how its always worked for me!

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  • when a girl gives you her number, she wants to called:P soon as possible.

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  • when a girls hands over her number, it means you can call her to chat. and it shows the guy has the guts to make the move and call her to talk

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  • I think that you should reserve that for after you are in a relationship, it might scare them off beforehand. I guess you could have short conversations nothing too long though. That's Ironic, I am on the phone with my boyfriend right as we speak.

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  • yu should wait two or three days to text or call

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  • ever heard of the phrase "we're just talking"?

    people go months in this 'talking stage' before even going on a date.

    definitely start talking after exchanging numbers! :)

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  • when you're in an actual relationship or if you are good friends. I wouldn't just "talk" to a random guy (or girl) on the phone

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  • its up to the cock

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What Guys Said 9

  • Just as soon as yoou can't stand NOT calling her just to talk!

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  • Getting a number is an invitation to converse, when you want.

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  • she gave you her number! she wants to talk! if she didn't want to get to know you better or talk, she wouldn't have given her number! so call her. maybe wait a day? or even call her later that night

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  • "Just to talk" ? That sounds like something a couple would do, so. Definitely after you're already together, or at least have known each other awhile.

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  • hmm interesting question, I've always wanted to know this myself, hopefully more girls answer this one.

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  • I was gonna say 'Isn't that the point of exchanging numbers?' but then you said about arranging dates. HMM. I dunno. I don't have a phone, so f*** it.

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  • if I gave a girl my number, it pretty much means she can call me anytime.

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  • I would be worried that I would be seen as desperate or stalker like, if I called just to talk before we are well on our way to a relationship.

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  • Its not OK until after yo have been together more than two months. And still I think its better to keep phone contact low in frequency and length.

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