Hey all, thank you for your time and responses.
Here is a basic summary of my situation: I have been on and off again with my ex for about a year and a half. Both times we split, was because she wanted to see other people. Now, when we were together, we always loved each other but I guess she wanted to see what else was out there and not get tied down (being an attractive young woman, I understand). It still hurts though, I've had my heart broken with her so many times and I've tried to disconnect with her, as advised by friends and close loved ones.
Here's the problem...whether she is in another relationship with someone else or not, she still messages me yo see how I'm doing. I find it hard to be neutral with her because I loved her so much. So being friends seems impossible. But why does she insist on texting me after clearly breaking my heart in the past? Is she keeping me as an option just in case we could work in the future? Using me to keep her entertained? I've though about asking her intentions/feelings but 'm scared that the answers she gives me may not be the ones I want to hear. Truth be told, I may very well still love her. Always have always will, I'd always support her no matter what. But I need her to respect me and I honestly don't know what to make of anything these days.
Like I said, I HAVE tried to disconnect and move on, but whenever I seem to make some progress, she talks to me and we start to catch up a little. We are both planning to move to NY (we're in our early 20's) so maybe she see's potential for us? I can't be sure of anything to be honest. Woman are so damn complex. Pleas help. Thanks.
Here is a basic summary of my situation: I have been on and off again with my ex for about a year and a half. Both times we split, was because she wanted to see other people. Now, when we were together, we always loved each other but I guess she wanted to see what else was out there and not get tied down (being an attractive young woman, I understand). It still hurts though, I've had my heart broken with her so many times and I've tried to disconnect with her, as advised by friends and close loved ones.
Here's the problem...whether she is in another relationship with someone else or not, she still messages me yo see how I'm doing. I find it hard to be neutral with her because I loved her so much. So being friends seems impossible. But why does she insist on texting me after clearly breaking my heart in the past? Is she keeping me as an option just in case we could work in the future? Using me to keep her entertained? I've though about asking her intentions/feelings but 'm scared that the answers she gives me may not be the ones I want to hear. Truth be told, I may very well still love her. Always have always will, I'd always support her no matter what. But I need her to respect me and I honestly don't know what to make of anything these days.
Like I said, I HAVE tried to disconnect and move on, but whenever I seem to make some progress, she talks to me and we start to catch up a little. We are both planning to move to NY (we're in our early 20's) so maybe she see's potential for us? I can't be sure of anything to be honest. Woman are so damn complex. Pleas help. Thanks.
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