I am 31 years old. People say I only look like I am 24. I am fun and outgoing. I am also a very positive person. I have a great job and am well educated. I love to cook and being in the outdoors. I also have two children (12 and 9). I am not interested in bringing them into the mix at first. There will be acknowledgement of them, but beyond that... it can wait.
I also Haven't dated in about four years. I had broken up with my fiance and hadn't seen it coming, so I needed some grieving time but also some time to get to know myself again.
I am ready to date, but am finding it difficult. I am not sure where to meet people or how to express interest. I am not even sure I am dateable. Maybe my age is a turn off. I am pretty and physically fit. And confused. Any help would be great.
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Your age is not the problem, it is your belief around your age and yourself that will hold you back.
I divorced at 42 and met someone right away. We were together for 3 years, he broke it off with me out of the blue and it took about a year for me to fully grieve the loss. I dated during the 2nd half of that year and into another full year and it felt completely hopeless. My dates pretty much sucked. I did a lot of online dating and met a lot of guys and either I liked them but all they wanted was casual sex or I did not like them at all but they tried to pursue me. I was so burnt out at several points that I stopped dating but couldn't help myself but to start dating again.
So, after all this crumminess for 2 years, at the age of 47 I met my fiance in a very unexpected way. I was a regular at his families' restaurant and he and I talked here and there for about 4 months before he finally asked me out. I have several other friends who divorced in their 40's and are engaged now too.
Point of the story-your age is not the problem, neither would any other aspect of your life be a problem EXCEPT your belief in yourself and how dateable you are. Oh, and patience to know that it can take time to meet someone who likes you as much as you like them. Good luck!1