i should be going anonymous for this but I decided to do this normally. a couple of my female friends complained about the same thing and I thought I should address it and share it with everyone. My friend is overweight and etc, ( before you think I'm shallow or an asshole, I used to be fat so I understand more then average people on this topic.) So my friend Kelly, she's overweight and she's the goofy type of person to hide her true insecurities. I try my best to keep her confidence up as a friend. She complains how she wants a muscular guy with hard abs and etc. I said to her " don't you just want someone to love you and treat you properly?" She replies " of course I do, but he must be super fit and hot". That I don't get it, its not only kelly, its more then 5 of my female friends who are just like her. I mean we all want a perfect lover but you can't be shallow also. That's what I'm trying to address, girls and guys who know they are overweight and yet only except their lover or boyfriend or girlfriend to be fit or ripped. I also study psychology so I have a few guesses but I wanna hear other peoples opinions on this.
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well your gfs sound very dillusional, if therell all fat and expect to find a "hard/ripped" guy. she's dillusional for thinking that most guys are ripped etc. because most are not at all. eventually they will all realize the error of their ways and come back down to reality, and settle for less. or eventually theyll be able to overcome their shallowness.
iam a bit chubby myself I don't expect to get a super fit, hot girl. even though I get attention from them anyway. that's besides the point. if they all can find super fit, chubby chaser guys, which is highly unlikely, their going to be very lonely. super fit, hot guys, will look for some whos like them, super fit hot whatever.
i know if I was fit and healthy, like I used to be id expect my girl to be the same way.0