I've been with my current boyfriend for 5 years. Parents don't care for him, long story. But my mom keeps saying that I couldn't possibly know that he is the "one" for me if I have never dated around. Is this true? Granted he is my first boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that I haven't been around guys, or been involved with other guys. I've been around the block enough times to know what a frog looks like. I have never gone on a date for fun an a free meal (heard that one tooo many times), only if I could see myself being with that person for a while. I also have several good guy friends and pay close attention to my friends and their bf's, husbands, etc. SO why should I ruin a perfectly good relationship just to date around? I mean dating isn't like tasting flavors at an Ice cream parlour. Chocolate, vanilla, strawberry, hmm... I'll have the chocolate. WTF? I don't get it. What do you think? Is dating around necessary or can you simply know? I thought a poll would be fun. Thanks guys!
- Dating is necessary.20% (2)40% (2)27% (4)Vote
- You just know.70% (7)60% (3)67% (10)Vote
- Asking the wrong person, but I wanna see the answers.10% (1)0% (0)6% (1)Vote
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B. You just know.
I'm both fortunate enough to have found my love almost as soon as I found how, without commiting to any other relationships besides one very stupid short online relationship that I was doing more out of curiosity than anything else.
Some people prefer to cut their teeth and date many different people to get a better understanding of who they want in life - these people tend to be the more cautious, sex after marridge types, but not always. Others, like me, can just date someone and find you have so much in common and that everything locks together seamlessly, and the relationship becomes perfect. I know we'll be together for the rest of our lives, it's hard to explain, you just know. We've had fallouts and arguments, which are essential for building a relationship, and sometimes for other weaker relationships those problems have been enough of a reason to walk away, but we've still stuck together.
You just know. It might not occur immediately, like people like to glorify the whole 'love at first sight' thing, but within a short time, you'll know this is the person you'll marry, have kids and grow old with.
Your Mum just has different opinions on matters of life. She sounds like my Dad - I once tried to tell my Dad that if I lost my girlfriend, I'd probably lose myself, and die. He lectured me for what must of been hours about how life goes on, I'll find someone else, I haven't realized there are more people who are better for me out there and so on. He insists too that I haven't found the one yet, and I'm just experiencing calf love, but that's because his philosophies on life and love are different. I follow what I've just told you, he follows something else. He's old.
Don't ruin your relationship, that's just pointless. Why would you need to experience more when you've already got enough? The people who are trying to give you advice suck at it, in my opinion.0