my boyfriend and I had a fight because he was writing a girl on myspace and denied the whole thing. he told a mutual friend he had plans of meeting this girl, and when we confronted the situation he said that wasn't true, he thought it was just a spam page. he wrote her calling her sexy and asking to meet her and text her.
he thinks that I should just forget it, that it only looked bad, but that he had no intentions of cheating, yet he never told me the truth about this girl in the first place- she sent me copies of their messages telling me to back off that he was into her. now I am 25, I am not into games, but I feel like his story has too many holes in it, but I am not ready to deal with the idea that maybe I'm just being insecure.
he has lied to me many times in the past, when he got his new car he had no intentions on taking me out that nite- instead he went out with friends he says he can't trust. his friend lied to him about me cheating, but he won't confront him- my friend did and he denied saying any such thing to my boyfriend. that makes no sense to me- did my boyfriend make it up or did his friend?
he tells me he loves me, wants to marry me, and we constantly disagree about me getting pregnant. I'm not ready. we don't have the finances, plus I am more pro- adoption.
his lying and hiding things from me confuses me. he met a girl through a friend and exchanged numbers with her- he calls her and has deleted the outgoing call to her- he said he did that because he knew I would get mad. only thing on that is I don't get mad- I am confused that he would hide things- not who he calls. however, when I go out he needs details on who ws there and what I did, he even asks mutual friends for details. its frustrating to me.
he is more into his video games which is nice, because he stays sober and out of trouble. when he's done playing, he expects me to drop what I'm doing to cuddle- ie: watch t.v., and sex. I am confused by his desire to keep me when it seems that he is unhappy with me, he wouldn't lie/ hide things from me if he felt trust and that it was safe. when I tried breaking up with him, he comes back and he has nowhere else to go so I take him in- and fall for it again.
i don't know what to do with myself. I know my question is a mess of statements, I'm sorry for that. I am just very confused and I don't know what to do with my feelings. how can I get him to tell me the truth, and fix myself?
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For someone who's not into games, it sure appears that you're playing in a dilly of a game here.
You're not going to get him to tell you the truth unless you catch him red-handed at something, so you may as well forget that. Perhaps you're not as insecure as you think you are. Maybe it's that little voice inside that's telling you that something is up; you just don't have anything solid to grab onto yet.
Unless you really feel that there's something wrong with you, then what is there to fix?3