This is my messed up problem:
I like both guys:
My boyfriend, I like him and he likes me back we just started dating last month.
My best friend, knew him since last year never thought I would like him because he's shorter than me. He has a girlfriend whom he didn't tell me about and when he did he said he didn't care about her.
Me and my best friend like each other (I slightly like him better if only he wasn't shorter than me..hes never told me he likes me though..its just obvious)
I started feeling confused ever since I got a boyfriend, I like my best friend who has a girlfriend who is shorter than me..i also like my boyfriend (if that makes any sense)
I like both, which guy shall I stick to? and why?
(feel free to ask additional questions if you it helps you answer better.. I just wanted to keep things short and not long and boring story of my life question :p)
- Best friendVote A
- BoyfriendVote B
Me and my boyfriend have only been going out for a month and I'm sure I can develop my feelings for him as time goes by. I can't think of any reasons not to stay with my boyfriend.
However my best friend has a girlfriend, even though he says he doesn't care about her I can't guarantee he really doesn't care. I can't guarantee he won't treat me the same way he treats her either.
Special thanks to: (in no particular order)
Anonymous Girl (who is 10th from the bottom)
I really do like my boyfriend.
Some people recon I shouldn't be with someone I doubt I would love.
I really have no experience in the relationship field :(
For making me realize I'm not serious about my boyfriend
Most Helpful Girl
Your current one, definitely. Focus on your current boyfriend, unless you didn't choose him as a boyfriend for the right reasons (e.g wanting to show of that you have a boyfriend etc). Not to mention, it would have hurt him a lot to know that you are even considering some other guys (Reason 1).
Secondly, I believe in loyalty. Stay loyal to your current one. If it doesn't work out, let nature takes its course. Last but not least, you are inviting a lot of problems such as being a 3rd party, disturbing, not to mention ruining he and his girlfriend's relationship. Irrespective of whether she/he likes each other as much or not, let them deal with their relationship on its own, not because of external factors such as you coming into the picture. And also imagine if she really likes your best friend as a boyfriend, she'd feel terribly hurt and insecure with you coming into picture and that itself can ruin their relationship.
You aren't 100% sure whether you'll like your best friend in the future and you are still on path of finding what you really want and need in life in general. So stay with your current boyfriend, keep a good distance and drawing a fine line with your best friends, and let both of you handle you and his relationships on its OWN. Don't do the wrong things. Karma bites.2
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