You're into PUA right? (sounds like it by how much you talk about "value")
Fact is women like a guy who can make the first move. It shows confidence (one of the most attractive qualities a guy can have, all "high value" guys are confident). Also a lot of the time even if the girl is really attracted to you she will not make the first move.
I am a quiet, socially awkward guy myself (something I'm working on improving) but I also do make an effort. I always make the first move when I like a girl, even though it scares the sh*t out of me. You can use this excuse that not making any effort or making the first move makes you a "high value" man, but it's bullsh*t, all it really means is that you're a pussy. It might sound harsh, but it's true. You're scared.
It's true that a "high value" man doesn't put too much effort into overly impressing girls, or kissing their arses, but if you want one you need to chase a little. My advice if you really want to have success and get a nice girl is just to put a little effort into it. Approach girls you like, get to know them, see whether you like them or not, and make the first moves when you decide you do.
Or you can keep coming on here and posting this question, hoping that girls will tell you what you're doing is fine, and that they love it. And not get laid. Ever.
Stop being a pussy.
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Sometimes it will. If it's not because the guy thinks he's all high and mighty and just don't make the first move or make an effort (unless he's gay or somethingg, then it's useless) then - au contraire.
It WILL possibly draw my attention. But after that it no use if he's a jerk or somethingg. It's just makes me curious and such at the beginning.
I like quiet guys, but no effort at all quickly gets frustrating, and I move on. Also, if he's the kind of guy you are, who only considers looks as criteria for dating, any attraction I might have had disappears. That kind of attitude is highly unattractive.
If he was naturally quiet but really tried come out a bit, then that would be attractive. But if he was arrogant and made no effort whatsoever then no that's a dealbreaker
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Do you ever get bored of asking the same question multiple times a day?
Quiet + little effort to impress = good
Stuck up + no effort whatsoever = badyup, I am attracted. but initially, I can be pretty quiet too, so I guess we'd get nowhere lol.
this is a stupid question
not even a little bit
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