I am dating a woman who has no kids (11 months). I prefer not to drink around my son and do not allow alcohol in my home. I will occasionally have one or two, very rarely. When my son is at his Moms, I spend that time at my girlfriends. I also go there every day for lunch or breakfast and spend the night any time son is at a friends. Girlfriend asks me to come over a lot, even when she knows my son is home and I feel the need to be there with him. She acts disappointed with that answer.
She asks and comments on me moving in with her, yet rarely stays or visits with me. I spend a lot of time with her at her place Not even just for dinner. we went over 3 months without her visiting. Currently has been about 3 weeks.
For someone who asks when I am moving in and has suggested marriage why is it hard to get her to visit?
It makes me feel bad when I cannot come over or cannot stay. I she gets impatient when I cannot spend time with her. I feel she doesn't understand the urgency to get home after work to my son. Am I reading the situation wrong?
Am I reading too much into this?
He will still be my son after he is out on his own... parenting is life long!
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I'm also a parent and have come to realize that as well as myself anyone I'm dating should understand that my daughter comes first and should show an interest in her if they are looking to pursue a relationship with me because like it or not we will both become part of that persons life which is not and easy thing but your girl friend does not seem to understand this and you don't need to be a parent to understand either
because before I was a parent I dated a guy a even thought his child didn't live with him I paid an interest I understood him being a parent came first its time she start spending time with you and your son she will feel uncomfortable at first but if its something she is not willing to do then she is not the one to tell the truth
as parents we both no its not just the qualities of a partner for us but also our child0