* 27 years old
* has poor people skills
* doesn't know how to dance
* never had a girlfriend before, but have dated a couple of times while in college
* ranks 7.1 out of 10 on "HotOrNot"
* a software developer
* recently attained a bachelors of science in computer science, but this four-year degree did take longer than four years so not exactly what some might call a genius.
* and has an intorverted-intiutive-feeling-judgemental (INFJ) personality type.
So, in terms of the following, what kind of girls should I be targeting here?
* Looks (on a 0 to 10 point scale)
* Age range
* umm... that's it - I guess.
Not that personality isn't important, I know that I wouldn't know her personality before I even start talking to her. And, the physical attraction has to be there as well.
Also, where can I meet these kinds of girls. Now, keep in mind that I am 27 and I have poor people skills, and I'm not too good-looking (I probably go on a diet and get some exercise). Can I meet these girls in the bars, night clubs, etc.?
At least I'm willing to accept that there might be other things that I might care about I just don't know what they would be.
Also, it'd be sweet if she knew how to cook and clean. Is that sexist? Because, I live like a pig. I think that I'm getting sick in my apartment from my own filth!
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Imagine your ideal woman. Picture her in your mind.
Feel the way you would if she was in your life.
Repeat as often as you wish, as the more you do this, the quicker she'll appear, but be patient. The more you feel that she's not on her way, the more she won't be.
Positive energy attracts positive energy, so keep upbeat and smile!
If you aren't a bar guy or a dancer, why go to where you don't want to be? Meetup . com (spaced to you can see it) is a great way to attend events with people with similar interests. Go for friendship with women first so that you become comfortable. Then, friends of friends of friends will expand your circle of acquaintances and your next partner may show up because of the connections.
Using the dating sites can be just as scary as trying to meet new people in real life, but you simply have to appreciate who YOU are before anyone else can appreciate you. Then, when you love yourself, another will love you.1
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