Would you girls still date an unemployed guy? Is it really about the money...money...money?

would you girls still date an unemployed guy? Why or why not?

Updates:
When is a good time to tell her? We've dated for 3 months now.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't care if a guy doesn't have a lot of money, but I'm not looking to be a free ride for someone. I would date someone who was unemployed if they were a student, or if they were actively looking for a job. If things were heading in a more serious direction, I wouldn't allow someone to move in with me if they weren't able to pay their share of the bills.

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What Girls Said 13

  • It depends; if he's unemployed and vigorously looking for a job, or is a student or something, then yea, it's not a problem.

    If he's just unemployed and kinda hangin around, calling up mom and dad often, eh, probably not.

    I don't care to much about the money - it's not the 1950's, I got my own money and definitely don't need a guy to supply it.

    I'm more focused on what he wants to do with his life - does he have purpose? Does he have realistic achievable goals? Go getter? etc.. I worry about this because I'm a go getter lol, and I don't want someone who is dragging their feet or could potentially hold me back...

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  • Well it depends: why is the guy unemployed? If it's a good reason like an injury, can't find a job (he has to be looking for one like a mad man though), or student, of course I wouldn't care! But if he's just mooching off of me and is being lazy or he got fired for a bad reason, then no way in hell would I date him. My parents and Destiny's Child taught me better than that. I need a man who can provide for me because that IS his job. I'm not saying he has to be rolling in money or a rocket scientist, but because I'm willing to put myself through law school to get my doctorate, I feel like I would rather be with a guy who at least has his bachelors. I'm not saying I'm judging based on income or education, I would date a guy who just got through high school, but to be honest, I want a scholastic guy. We would relate more if he cared about education as much as I did.

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  • Yes, with out question. It's about his character, not about his income.

    If he still worked hard to find a job, or was still a strong, independent person and didn't just mooch off of me all the time (or the government) then I don't care.

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  • no I won't date a guy who is unemployed...unless he is a full time student or if he's working hard looking for a job. I'm earning my keep too and I would not want to date a bum who does nothing but leeches off me and relies on me financially in the long run. I don't need to date a rich guy, just a guy who works hard to support himself is good enough. also the traits that lie behind that are attractive...his strive, determination, independence etc.

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  • I don't know about unemployed.. but the guy doesn't have to be rich or have a lot of money or anything... Personality is FAR more important.

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  • because they love him.

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  • if he is actively looking for a job, is a student, or can't work because of an injury-related issue, is volunteering or doing something to keep himself active, productive, then I would date him if I found him attractive, but if he is not doing anything, then no I would not

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  • No. I dated a guy who became unemployed and after a while I just started feeling like his mother (i.e I was paying for everything and doing everything).

    If a guy made a concerted effort to contribute in other ways I guess it could work.

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  • As long as he is planning to get employed soon then why not.

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  • it's not all about money. I would date and have dated unemployed guys.

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  • I'm dating an unemployed guy. He's looking for work, but can't find anything.

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  • you need money to survive no?

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  • I'm not going to feel guilty because I won't date an unemployed man. He doesn't have any money, he needs to focus on not being jobless and then worry about dating. For the record, I don't have a job either and my #1 motivation is looking for one and improving myself. I don't have time to date. Dating is too expensive for someone with no money. Dates aren't going to pay for themselves and I'll be damned if I'm going to "chill" at his house because he can't take me out.

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What Guys Said 1

  • I hope because I'm unemployed but I've been volunteering lately to improve my job resume, since I'm inexperienced, so at least I'm not slacking around, I'm taking charge for my life

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