Male 34. Not a lot of dating experience to go off of.
How young is too young? 18, 24, 30, somewhere in between?
I want to have a family w/healthy children, and the younger the parents are the healthier the child. I also don't care for "baggage" from previous bad relationships. Is there some sort of rule that's used?
(NOTE: The term"baggage" above refers to emotional baggage, not children.)
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I think it depends on you and the girl's mindset. You do not want to be with a girl who is still "partying" and wanting to date around, and sleep around with other guys or what not. You know, the type of girl that maybe even if she has a kid, she still goes our clubbing every night and she still drinks a lot. Partying a lot, to me does not sound like "husband" or "wife" material. If you find a girl who is 18 and she seriously tells you that she is ready to settle down, marry you and be your wife and she has herself all figured out then you might say OK to her. Or you might not and take it with a grain of salt and think "hey maybe she is only saying this to use me to get out of her place so that she can have free rent or free food with me." I have heard of stories like this. My best guy friend got married young (maybe like middle 20s) and he got a divorce because she was using him just for free rent.
The 18 year olds and younger, I feel you might not want to bother with them too much because they might still be "figuring themselves out" as in they don't know who they are, what kind of guy they want, and therefore they may not treat you great.
I have heard stories like this before a lot of times. Where the girl or the guy gets together when they are like very young, maybe 16ish or whatever to 18ish, and they date for a long time (few years) and they break up for that reason. The reason is they feel they want to date around, see if there are other people more suitable out there for them. They feel they are missing out on life if they are tied down too early.
24 might not be bad. At that age, some girls are finished with their first BA at least, and some already done with their MA. They might have their own rent, their own car, their own full time job, and be independent. They may have already dated enough to know what their "type" is, as in what they want in a guy and what they don't want in a guy. Some times though, these type of girls do already have 1-3 kids with previous guys. I use to work at a call center and I have met some beautiful girls who are that age, who have 2-3 kids with some other guy but they are gorgeous and they party a lot. always out dancing till 3 in the morning. So it depends, on if they have that no kids, want to settle in mode.
For me, I think if you really wanted to find a girl who is in her mid 20s and still can have kids safely you can find her. Just make sure she wants to settle down.
I'm 25 and I wanted to settle down at 24 and I found someone, although he is younger than me.
bottom line: When you find the girl, make sure she had the mindset you have, and most younger girls probably don't.0