He is addicted to making profiles on dating sites and sex sites...etc. he talks to women and wants.pictures..I found out about it and he started.to.cry.. said he doesn't deserve me..which is true, but he knows its wrong and he says he feels guilty and sick after wards. He and I have been together for four years. I had already had sex before him and he was still a virgin. We broke up already because he said he was curious about being with other people and it bothered him that I had. While we were apart he just ended up coming back to ME AND wanting to work things out. I feel we should break up but I know we'd just get back together. If you can't handle someone at their worse or while they are struggling than you just flat out don't deserve them. Me I wanna help him get through this, I just don't know how. I know it has to be up to him and all him, but he shouldn't have to feel alone. I stand by him through thick and thin. Yeah seems like we take one step forward to take two steps back. We get along so great. We don't ever fight. He says I am beautiful and the one he wants to marry, Just having a hard time with him only being with one person for his life. He has friends and coworkers that brag about their past party days and sex with lots of people...I just need help. I want to understand why or how he says and knows It's wrong doesn't wanna loose me but once he around a computer and he by himself why he forgets the real world for cyber fake bull sh*t. He did say he likes that people still want him and find him attractive. It just sucks its online...I get the whole wanting to feel wanted...its a great feeling to know your attractive to other people. What can I do? I know dumping him is a option which yes I'm considering but It's the easy way out, it shows I can't handle his problems. I'm better than that I'm a fighter, I'm not a quitter...is there anyone out there who can relate? Has any advice? Anything? I'm so torn.
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This isn't about being a fighter, its about him not having much respect for you and you're making excuses for him and making it out to be like an addiction.
Now, if it is an addiction then he needs professional help if it keeps happening.
If its not an addiction then don't let this guy walk all over you, if my boyfriend was my first id be happy that I get to spend the rest of my life with the person I lost it to, I wouldn't be thinking about seeing other people! If that's the case with him then he shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with, you can't have both a steady girlfriend and still expect to sleep with others.
Did you actually let him go off and maybe sleep with others and then come back to you? I know 4 years is a long time but you also need to think about are you gonna be able to live your life like this, with him always talking about how he might want to try it with other people? Sorry but if that was my boyfriend then he would have been out of the door a long time ago, no excuses x0