I'm have been in a relationship for 6 years. We had a conversation regrading intimacy and I was told that he has been hurt before therefore he doesn't want to emotionally attached to anyone. As for me I am very passionate and romantic and need this kind of attention.
I know he is not going to change because he says that just the way he is regardless of what I need. He may try a few times only when I say something about it but it's not heartfelt. RECENTLY I met someone else and he is everything that I want and need but we have only known each other for a few months. he wants me to be with him, but I have invested so much in my current relationship, I just don't know if I should just go with my heart and go for it or stay where I am.
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I think you should go with the new guy. If it feels like the right thing in your heart then it's the right thing. I am a big believer in that guiding voice.
I understand the time you have committed to your current mate. But if you've given him six years and he still can't trust you and open up into a full relationship, then I think it's fine to move on. The bottom line is that it doesn't matter what happened to him before. We have all been hurt, some more than others, and that can make it hard to trust someone else. But that leap of faith has occur at some point. I'm all for giving someone a few extra months' time because we have to go at our own pace. Yet if you aren't the one who hurt him, why is he punishing you for it? To me that's weak. I am willing to bet that this recent guy has also been hurt, but it doesn't sound like he wants to blame you for it. I'd move on. I think you've made as much of an effort as could ever be wanted.0