my boyfriend told me today that he thinks I am a sad, miserable and lonely person with nothing better to do than call him every night. for the record we have a long distance relationship and I do not call him every night. tonight was the first night I have called him in 5 days (he's called me the past 2). truth is, I am an introvert, people exhaust me and I actually enjoy staying at home watching movies, cleaning house, tending to the garden and what not. I don't like going out, I never have and I don't have any friends that I see/hang out with on a regular basis. sure, I used to have "good" friends but they all screwed me over in some form or another to a point that was just unforgivable, so why go bother if I'm just fine the way I am? I easily entertain myself and always have, being an only child, I've almost always gone solo. when my boyfriend and I met (we weren't always long distance) I did have friends that I spent almost every waking hour with and that was really something new for me, high school was like an anomaly in that I had a close group of friends and it was really starting to get annoying. I just don't do well around people and I've tried explaining this to him, alas, he is an extrovert and it seems like he constantly needs to be around people and thinks that there is something wrong with me if I don't feel the same (he's even asked me to see a doctor about depression or go to a therapist). I'm not unfriendly when I do go out, like to the grocery store or the mailbox. I do talk to people and I'm very nice and friendly, but that doesn't mean that I want to spend my entire day/evening at a club or at someone elses house, it honestly makes me uncomfortable and I just don't enjoy myself. this is really becoming an issue with a lot of arguments and I just don't know how to handle it any more, why can't I make him understand that I like my life just the way it is and I don't want to change it, especially just because he thinks it's unnatural and depressing.
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I don't know then. maybe you could go to a shrink and take him with you so you can prove your not depressed lol
You have to understand his side too, he thinks you are depressed and wants to help, you can talk to him and ask him to stop with this depression thing because its bothering you.
Try to explain that you like staying at home, that you feel more comfortable without lots of people around you and this is yourself and if he likes you, he will have to accept it. You are not saying you are going to live in your house forever, but you just don't like to go out as much as him. if he really don't understand you can give me your number and your MSN and break up with him ;)