and does he like me? ...ok so I met this guy off an online dating site 3 weeks ago. I really didn't get my hopes up because men off these sites tend to be douches/ and not attractive. I met for dinner, he was cute and a NICE guy. He opened my door for me, walked me to my door, held my hand, payed for everything, and sent me texts to see if I got home safe. He communicated he wanted to see me again after thedate and we have been talking daily ever since and seeing each other.
Me, the paranoid one, has gone on the site I met him and seen that he logged on a couple of days during a week. I don't know if this even means anything. Does it? Anyways he told his dad about me, and his friends, and he always asks about my parents. We either talk on the phone or text each day after work. he kinda opened up to me personally so I let my guard down. He let me in on some of his insecurities and family issues. this would turn a normal girl off, but this actuallyy turned me on . I felt like I could relate to him more when he opened up to me. I know that he is looking for a relationship. He is such a nice guy we haven't even mentioned sex or anything yet at all. every time we go out , he refuses to let me pay...even if it is a bottle of water. he was talking aobut us taking a road trip together one weekend soon, and I offered to drive my car, and he refuses to let me do so...saying " I can't let you do that, I will drive".
I have completely lost interest in other men. hell, I don't even see the use of looking at another man. No one even compares. he makes other men look like trash,litterally. I am scared that he may meet someone else and I will get hurt. I don't even know if he is meeting other people...ugh what do I do?
YOu guys know that usher song " you got it bad"? Yea that's me right now. I got it real bad...what do I do to not scare him away? How do I know if he likes me alot? etc
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This is moving way too fast. I have seen this in action and it is a great way for a guy to open a girl up to feeling comfortable and then they go in for the kill, which is usually sex without a relationship and while they are seeing other women.
So, he could be a too-good-to-be true guy or he could be a nice guy. You need to slow this down in order to find out. I don't think there is anything wrong with him or you dating others when you are not committed to each other and you have not become intimate. However, the way he is acting with you just does not fit with a guy continuing to check the online dating site. That sounds very strange and contrary to what I have seen nice guys who are really in to a girl do. I would definitely take care.
So, stop putting this guy on a pedestal. If you want a great way of screwing things up, build a guy up to being the one, a king among men, in your mind and you will. When you treat someone as your equal, not as someone you don't deserve, you tend to see their behaviors in the right light and you are better able to notice when things don't add up. Good luck!0