I find it really hard to get a date with girls. I am told I am funny, interesting, good looking (most girls say I am an 8/10), caring, trustworthy, always happy, good job, adventurous...basically girls have said I am the 'perfect guy'. But, very rarely do any girls want to date me, or even hook up. I used to get attention just walking down the street, but now I get nothing, and nothing has changed, except I now have a better job and I am much happier than I used to be.
I recently went on my first date in 2 years! And it all collapsed after 2 months, despite us getting on like a house on fire.
I am stuck. I don’t understand what girls want. I have even tried just doing nothing, as some of my friends have said I might be trying too hard, but then I just don't get noticed at all.
Is it true girls like the 'bad boys? I have noticed that the more risky guys have much more luck. But then, the girls complain that their boyfriend is a twat and they can't find any nice guys. But I’m right under their noses and they turn me down.
I’m stuck. Help!
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hep , what you discribed is called being the nice guy. girls may like many of your atitudes and things you do and relegate you to just friend statis but will base any future boyfriends on you. may even say to you something like (present bf) why can't he be more like you?
general the type atitudes these girls are giving you fade by age 25 or slightly older because by then they realize that the badboys are exactly that bad news boys. and then they start appreciating the nice guys more . but as a rule most nice guys have already been snatched up by nice girls. what few are left like you are left puzzeled.
good news though , you may have been flirted with by 1/2 doz or so girls and not realized it!
ya I know "WHAT?" there are girls that are exremely shy that have been flirting with you but their flirting is different than a more confident girls. its more secretive .
do a google on shy girls body language and signals read as many as you can from both categories (body and signals) as said you may have noticed girls doing these things but never
equated them to as flirting with you. also many of these type girls already want to be with you but just to shy to approach.
if you read my profile you might understand why I understand your predicament and believe me this stuff works. knowing body language and how to interpret it. their are positive and negative signals that girls give but generally speaking many nice guys don't know these facts. its possible that many of the girls you thought and maybe even tried to date were giving you only luke warm to minimal responses body language wise. other than that asaid your a great guy for a girl but just not at the present for them or so they think until they do wise up and realize bad boys aree exactly that bad news boys.1