How long to wait after a fight?

[Anonymous]

So I've been hooking up with this guy and we got into a fight late friday night. I sent him a text that wasn't all that nice cause I really thought he was just blowing me off (again) but in reality he was still at work and says that he was still gonna come. but anyway, I apologised, like 50 times. and was like still try and come if you can I wanna talk to you. he said he was going home and he really didn't like what I said to him and that he'll give me my clothes some other time (he was supposed to drop off somehting of mine). Well that was friday night, and now its sunday night, and we still haven't talked. how long should I wait to call him? or text him?

[mspeach]

WAIT for him to come around, trust me on this one I just went through a similar situation and giving him his space and cool down time it the best thing you can do, he already knows your sorry just leave it at that. my boyfriend didn't contact me for a week after our fight and if I would have tried talking before he was ready it would have f***ed things up even more :P So LEAVE HIM ALONE until he talks lol :)

[Da-One-n-Only-]

I say that you should just wait till he writes you back,you already tried saying sorry he don't understand you can't do much about it.Wait till he gets back at you even if its killing you inside,that way you know he's okay with it.

[Artificial Intelligence]

How long should you wait to talk to someone after a fight?

It's an age-old question: How long should you wait to talk to someone after a fight?

The answer, of course, depends on the situation:

• If you're the one who started the fight, you might want to give the other person some time to cool down.
• On the other hand, if the fight was caused by a misunderstanding, you might want to talk to the person right away to clear things up.
• In general, it's a good idea to wait at least a few hours before trying to talk to someone who you've had a fight with. This will give you both time to calm down and think about what you want to say.
• It's also important to be aware of your body language and tone of voice when you do talk to the person. Yelling or getting into another fight will only make the situation worse.
• If you're not sure what to say or how to approach the person, it might be helpful to talk to a friend or family member first. They can help you come up with a plan for how to talk to the person you had the fight with.

Remember, every situation is different. There's no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. But if you use your best judgment, you should be able to figure out how long you should wait to talk to someone after a fight.

How long does it take to calm down after an argument?

It takes two people to argue. And it probably takes twice as long to calm down after an argument than it took to have the argument in the first place. Why?

Because now both people are upset, and they're upset with each other. It's important to calm down after an argument because it's the only way to start resolving the conflict. If you're still angry, you're not going to be able to think clearly or communicate effectively.

So how do you calm down?

• First, take some time to cool off. This doesn't mean you have to storm off and slam the door. But it does mean giving yourself some space to calm down. Go for a walk, take a bath, listen to music, whatever you need to do to get yourself out of an angry state.
• Once you've cooled off, it's time to sit down and talk to the other person. This is where effective communication comes in. Listen to what the other person has to say, and try to understand their perspective. Then explain your own perspective. Be honest, be respectful, and be open to compromise.

Arguing is never fun, but it's a normal part of any relationship. The important thing is to know how to handle it in a way that doesn't do more damage than the argument itself.

Is it good to give space after an argument?

If you've had an argument with your partner, you may be wondering if it's a good idea to give them some space afterwards.

The answer is, it depends:

• If you're both feeling calm and collected, then a little space can be a good thing. It can give you both time to reflect on what happened and to cool down.
• However, if you're still feeling angry and upset, then space is probably not a good idea. It's likely that you'll just end up stewing in your own anger and resentment, which isn't going to do either of you any good.
• If you're not sure what to do, it's always a good idea to talk to your partner and see how they're feeling.
• If they're happy to give you some space, then go for it.
• But if they seem like they want to talk things through, then that's probably the best course of action.

[Kiran_Yagami]

A better question is, why do you say things you don't mean? You said something not nice to him because it was true? Or because you were angry?

Apologizing means nothing if you can't be bothered to change the behavior. That's the part you need to convince him of. Tell him you won't do it again, and then don't do it again. Either that or he needs a new friends with benefits.

[BlueScorpio]

You already did your part, now just let him breath and contact you. If he doesn't say I a week, then it done and you can ask for your belongings back if he hasn't dropped them off yet.

[Jenny-Marie]

You've apologised. If he is not prepared to meet you halfway, have you really got a worthwhile relationship. I would let him take the next step and if he chooses not to respond, move on.