Why is it that a guy knowing that a girl has a daughter, will still hang out with her, take her out on dates, but then tell her he's to busy for a realationship (working 80 hrs a week) but then turn around and tell his buddies, it's because she has a kid, and we have different priorties. Why can't guys just be honest?
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It took him 6 dates just to kiss you. Heh.
I'm not necessarily speaking for him, so my guess is as good as anybodys. But I think he kept dating you because he REALLY did want you. Either for sex, or for a relationship. But sadly, he changed his mind because of your daughter. That delayed kiss made it clear that he wasn't sure if he wanted you or not - he had trouble deciding.
Then he rejected you. Let me ask you this - does he have a child? Probably not. Single and looking. So how does this situation make it fair for him? He'll have to get along with your daughter to keep this relationship going. Don't get me wrong - there are guys out there who are willing to date single moms. They put their egos and dignity on the line to accept the situation. But there are other guys who don't feel it's right. Why is that? Because, no matter how you look at it, we ARE the 'replacement daddys'. Go ahead and argue with me about the kid already having a father. It doesn't matter, because the child will be part of the equation irregardless.
Since he lied about 'not wanting a relationship', he was trying to let you down easy by putting the blame on him, not you. He didn't want to hurt your feelings. Girls do this all the time too - a guy asks them out, and they make up an excuse or they flake out with a bullsh*t reason, just so he's not upset. Why can't girls be honest? Oh, wait, yeah. Because of emotions.
You want the truth? No, you don't. The truth usually hurts.
Just get over it and keep looking.9