I was married at 20...for a long time...and it finally died a quiet peaceful death. No heart ache. So I get into a relatinoship for a year with a guy that seems to be so awesome...till I find out lies...he has excuses...and I forgive..because he is so loving to me. And then he dumps me. On Sunday he can't wait to see me and misses me...on Monday we are "done forever". I didn't handle it well...I cried and begged...and pushed him further away. There is no hope of reconciliation...and honestly, when I look at the lies and his whorish need for attention from women, I should be glad...but at my age...I'm going through my first real "heart break" and I'm not sure how to handle it. I literally can't eat...(lost 15 lbs)...and think of him constantly. And knowing I don't even cross his mind makes it hurt even more. any quick fixes?
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I feel that I've been dealing with heartbreak for well over a year now, closer to 2. I wasn't even dating this girl, I just really admired her for a long time, and tried to make things happen, fell harder, and boom... Things happened, words exchanged, and we haven't been friends or spoken since. I just couldn't handle it anymore, for one, but still...
She was the absolute kind of girl that I wanted, hoped to have on my future, drove me to do things that I either didn't want to do, or thought that I couldn't do, and I honestly hoped that one day, she could somehow be the girl I would marry... It was foolish of me to feel this way, I'll admit, but idk... I couldn't even help it after liking her for years and pushing myself, like I did, to get closer to her. It's still something tho, that hurts me everyday, it just lingers in the back of my mind... For some reason I still think about her all the time, even tho I shouldn't.
A lot of times, I just try and hang out with friends, go to work, stay busy basically... It helps for a while at least, sometimes it's like I forget it all happened! But you know, I'm not so sure if you really ever truly get over that first heartbreak... Been trying for a long while, and still, it's hard.
It's important tho, to develop a good mindset too, a lot of it is purely mental... Just remain strong, and hopeful (for better things to come), spend time with friends and family, stay busy with work and hobbies/things you really enjoy doing, try and meet new people, visit new places, maybe even relocate. That's really all you can do, I feel...
Good luck, and I'm sorry you had to go through this. Feel better soon! :)0