I'm a recently divorced 39-year-old woman. While I'm relatively new to the dating scene, I've been trying out all sorts of things that my married self wouldn't have thought possible -- like actually going out and having fun with my girlfriends at bars, dance clubs, etc. And of course, while doing this I've met a few suitors on dating site ----cougarconnecting.com-----. There's one man in particular that is wonderful: he's caring, kind, has a real job that earns him good money and he is very attractive. There's only one problem: he is only 26!
At first, I thought he was in his thirties and I don't really look my age, but I've noticed that once people find out our age difference, they call me a Cougar and make other annoying comments. He says they are just being funny and that he loves spending time with me and I shouldn't care what others think or say about us if we make each other happy. He's also the first one to tell people about the age difference as if he's proud, and prior to being in this position I would've agreed, but now I'm just not sure. I don't like the strange looks or the double standard that comes with dating a younger man, and I don't know if I should break it off or not.
Part of me feels like I should just enjoy our time together, and the other says I should let him go to find someone his own age. Please help!
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If you're both comfortable with each other and enjoy one another's company (and the sex) then listen to what he's telling you - ignore everyone else.
Please do not take any notice of the idiots who call you a "cougar", being older than him, does not mean you're old or a "cougar" (which is a 50 year old slut as far as I was always told). It is annoying at this age to be called something because 20-something's think life ends at 30 if you're female and that men don't have to be referred to anything when they're doing the same thing with younger girls at 50! The fact that you're older than him means you're instantly put in that cougar category which is actually derogatory to unattached women older than 30.
Personally I know my life began at 30 and it's getting better and better with each year, same with all my friends (male & female). I pity the fools who think we're washed-up and not fit for anything at this age when all we have is what we're meant to have had after nearly a lifetime of working for it! (ie: house, car, career, plans, insurances etc).
You're being called a cougar because men haven't yet come to terms that we step up a gear as we age and they unfortunately wither away, they find it hard to accept that you know their games and can challenge them like young girls are not equipped to. If you've found a man of 26 (let's be honest, they're boys til they're 25!) then take the plunge and enjoy what you have, you deserve a chance at love as much as anyone of any age. Don't forget though that there are a new generation of "men" wanting an "older" woman purely for her sexual experience and prowess - we don't have the same hang-ups or need to be validated the same way we did when we were younger - that's what young men are looking for in an older woman.
I hope it works out for you, I think it will if you're both on the same page so to speak ;o)0