Long story short, the ex and I dated for about 4 months before he pulled the 180 on me and then broke up. The reasons were lame (work, not the right time, we can still be friends and hang out, I still care about you, blah blah). But then he just flat out stopped bothering after the holidays (when we broke up). Needless to say, it left me really confused and wondering what happened. I wrote it off on his immaturity.
With the exception of one time (I initiated contact), I haven't heard from him in over a year and a half. I tried to remain civil and friendly the first few months in, but stopped bothering because he just wouldn't bother, and I wasn't about to be one of those girls.
As far as I know, he hasn't dated since we broke up.
All that said, starting this last spring, one of our mutual friends invited me over (they live in the same house). I thought it was odd because up until then, nobody had bothered to since the break up. Then he tried to invite me over again. About 2 months ago, another mutual friend added me on Facebook (which was odd because I'd tried to add him before and he declined). He started suggesting I come over. Then his other friend, who's the only one who knows how I feel about the entire thing, started telling me I should just go over and would invite me over. That's when I started to find it strange. I haven't read into it much, but I found it all kind of weird. The only other time I've seen this behavior from them was when my ex and I started dating. Major encouragement from them for me to come hang out and all that, which is why this stands out to me now.
Sooo, with that said, guys... wtf? I'm not really looking to get back with the guy. I wouldn't mind being a friend, but just being around him is blah to me since he treated me like he did. And if there is any motive behind this, I kind of want him to step forward since he's the one who behaved like a jerk. :/ I think it's kind of lame that I have to break down and hang out. Any insight?
And- am I out of line for being so stubborn about it? They like to rag on me about not wanting to. I think it's lame I have to do the breaking down when I distanced myself for a reason.
Sorry for the confusion, it was late when I wrote this. :p