America's racial history has engineered this twisted tale as much as the reality of the Black male literally disappearing from the Black family. The attack on Black males in America in particular, has brought about the destruction of Black family life--a system fostered by slavery, Jim Crow and current bigotry in all aspects of life. And when we look at the number of Black males caught up in the drug game, dropping out of school, and in the prison system; I maintain that these problems are a direct result of the destruction of the Black father...and removing him from a functional role in the community.
How then, should I, a Black woman, feel benefited, celebrated or obligated, to give validation and acceptance to unions between Black men and white women?
These relationships, in my opinion, are falsely packaged, as "improved race relations", which is a euphemism in saying that white people find Black people more acceptable. No! what this is basically, is the fusion of individuals who are psychologically disconnected from the reality of their subconscious participation, and or acquiescing to the historical charges, engineered in the sick, twisted minds of white males, that ALL BLACK MEN WANT THEIR PRECIOUS WHITE WOMEN. Who feared Black men to the degree of actually cutting off their genitalia after lynching them--even in death, they were still afraid of them taking their "beloved white women."
It is a sickening history.
Laws were created to protect white women in America during this period--no laws ever existed to protect Black women when they were raped by white men.
Children born of these unions are not considered as symbols of pride in the African American legacy, they are a painful symbol of self-hatred, so deep in Black men; they do not realize how they are destroying themselves: through a phony image of men in love, what they represent, is the sad fact of self-loathing, so deep within many Black males, it can only be satisfied if they attract the one thing their enemy said they can't have: a white woman and her desire for him...and thus, this is the prized trophy--for all the world to see: "Look! I ain't a N*gger no more! I gots me a white woman.
America has it's own history, but Black women are not really jealous more so than they are disrespected. It's not a matter of feeling insecure or inferior--it's more or less a feeling of perplexity--given that are disrespected. It's not a matter of feeling insecure or inferior--it's more or less a feeling of perplexity--given that many Black women esteem and revere themselves so highly
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I am sorry I missed you.
Dated and married across racial lines, yet I am a Tea Party conservative like Herman Cain.
I have insights, here. I would like dialog with you and won't pursue a "relationship" with you. I have a difficult schedule, so it will take some time, but your gripe is not a transient one.
You won't like some of my responses because I will not appease you to get on your good side.
Many, like you, are "Waiting to Exhale". The problem is that so many more Black women survive the social/sexual jungle, get their Bachelors and work in government or the private sector than the men who get derailed into the rap/sagging culture and CAUSE THEMSELVES to be locked out into obscenely high unemployment.
I'll look for a private message. If I don't get one, my advice is to marry a man who treats you with respect. Let him be the man in a traditional sense, not just the recreation part of your vibe. The few that are Black know they are rare and often will let you know. Many middle class white men want refuge from the sophisticated, Feminist "Sex in the City" mentality of educated white women. Don't be one of these with a natural tan.
More if you care.