today is my ex's birthday, and I took everyone's advice about not texting or calling him to wish him happy birthday. do you think he'll notice that I didn't contact him today? I know for a fact that he's been having sex with a bunch of other girls, but I still have feelings for him, and when we talked last he said that I'm the only girl he's ever actually cared about.
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Modern statistics suggest that most marriages today don't last more than 7 years max. Why is this? Well I believe it is because of the 'blame' culture that we live in today. Today we live in a society where everything is instant (like instant noodles), and when we don't get satisfaction out of something immediately, they are discarded, like disposable diapers.
Sadly our relationships aren't like that. Our relationships are the exact opposite of the instant gratification model...and need time to nurture.
I think he might notice...and if he does, you'll have a lot to answer for. Because by not being forthcoming, it'll only make him feel more bitter...and maybe push you away farther.
Depending on who was the one who instigated the breakup initally, how long your relationship with him was and how you handle the situation, I would think it is possible for two people to come back together. However it will depend upon a number of factors. The first will be the ability to establish a good honest connection with the other party, and once that is reciprocated, developing trust with the other party. If you had chosen to break up with this guy before (which for some reason I think you did, judging by your comments) if you want to restart the relationship, you're going to have to be prepared to accept who he is...and do a lot of the groundwork on the recovery process. In restarting any relationship, that will probably be the hardest to deal with. But if you can accept him as who he is and how he is (and him with you), there is a possible chance he could come back round to you.0