Today I was shopping at Costco. Everywhere I went in that place this woman would pop up. I tried to say hey to her but she seemed a little weird so I just ignored her and kept shopping. She called security and told them I was stalking her and they kicked me out. I've had this kind of thing happen before. I tried to help a woman that dropped some things and she sprayed me with mace. I told another girl her hair was pretty and she smacked me hard than I've ever been hit in my life. For some reason women think I'm creepy and hate me. It's why I've not been able to get a date for over 10 years now. I just want to live my life in peace and be left alone. How can I go about this?
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Just back off a little. Or if you look like a freak then tone it down (not saying you do). MOST, not all, girls like clean cut guys who don't over do it. Just smile and them and don't chase them. I would smack you too if you followed me. Don't be so blunt. If you don't know someone that well don't say their hair is pretty. Wait until you know them better. Us girls think you are a sexual predator or pervert so we freak out. Put yourself in our shoes. If some random guy told you that in public wouldn't you be a little freaked out? Just tone it down, don't try so hard, and don't go out of your way to speak to someone and make it obvious. If you see a girl you like start by maybe asking her a question like, "What aisle is the apples on?" or something like an ice breaker. When random guys in public say hey to me it sends of alarms to me: Ok they think I'm pretty and they just want to get in my pants. So of course we are going to run. So no matter if they are Brad Pitt (well maybe not, haha) or a homeless person they all look like perverts in my eyes when they randomly say hey and you don't even know them! Now if they said sometihng like where can I find this or great weather or something then that is more of an ice breaker than just "hey" in a sexy weird voice. If you wnt to live your life in peace and to be left alone then why do you try to pick up women in public? Just relax and be casual, don't try so hard. If you really want a relationship try someplace more appropriate like MATCH.com or joining a singles group or something. But if you want to be left alone then don't chase women or call them pretty. I get this all the time and It turns me off from the get go. I don't want a man who says "hey" seducingly and arrogantly. Play it cool.3