I've dating this guy for 5 months. I really like him and although he always said he isn't madly in love with me I think he loves me as well.
I live with my mother and but we don't get along very well. I was talking to him and he said if she kicked me out I could go live with him and I was never going to be alone because he would take care of me.
Is this a good thing? I don't want him to look at me and feel he has to be with me because I don't have anyone else. Do you guys think he meant another thing when he said it? Would you say it to your girlfriend of 5 months?
(I'm 24 and he is 25)
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First of all guys may lie and say they love you and don't mean it to get close enough to have sexual relations but when guy says he is not madly in love with you he is being honest. I would not read more into unless you sit down and have a talk with him. Are you guys intimate? If so moving in with him and depending on him for support could be the worst decision of your life. I have had many female friends that have fallen into this trap. The men they cared about changed once they moved in and became very possessive and insecure. They feel they own you because they are working to support you and provide you food and shelter. Whatever is going on between your mom you need to try to work out if you can. Family is precious. You need to get yourself together so if you ever do decide to move out you can take care of yourself without depending on anyone else. You will gain so much respect if you do. If you are already finanically independent then I apologize. Moving in with your boyfriend/girlfriend is a gamble. I have seen it go both ways. 5 months is kind of early in my opinion. How much do you really think you know about him and how much does he really know about you. Nothing is hidden anymore once you move in. Things will change a lot when you move in. It won't be the cute and fun dating anymore and he may not try as hard since he knows he has you. You are very right to question the idea of moving in and I honestly feel it would not be a good idea to move in with this guy.1