I just started dating this guy and before we started dating he told me that he was planning on visiting his friend in florida for the winter. He never said anything else about it until a couple of days ago, now he is saying he is leaving after the new years and will be back in march. He doesn't have plane tickets or anything he plans on driving. He said that we could still talk while he was away. I'm not sure how I should take this. He knows I don't want him to go, but he is going anyways. Should I just let him go and wait for him? Should I tell him its over until he can decide wether he really wants to be with me?
-helpless and confused
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My cousin was in a slightly different situation, whereby he was planning on going overseas to Europe for a while to explore the world. A couple of months before he left, he met a girl. In that two months, he got her pregnant. Now, he's unable to travel because he has two kids (she got pregnant again soon after the first one was born). Of course he loves them, but it has meant that he won't be able to travel for quite some time, since he's forced by budgetary constraints to spend his days working to earn an income to support the family.
Life needs to be lived your own way while it still can. In a couple of month's time when he returns, if this boy's still in your life, then he's definitely a keeper. If he slowly fades away from you, then it just wasn't meant to be.
In the time that he's away, if he keeps in contact, then don't go out and have any flings. However, if he loses all contact, don't be afraid to have a love life outside of him.
Probably best way to take it is to let him go for his trip, wait for him to return, and then decide on your future then. Make your hand(s) or a toy your sex life for a while. It's only two months after all... Remember being a younger kid when two months without a partner was just the usual, because you'd spent YEARS without one?
If, for whatever reason, you meet this really amazing guy while he's gone, tell him your situation, and you can decide what you want to do from there. Should your current boyfriend be replaced while he's gone, make sure you tell him. You're both young though, so as much as love may still be an ideal, it's best not to go breaking people's hearts while they're away for such a relatively short time.
Of course, should he cheat on you while he's away, split ASAP (even if it's on the phone or online), and go out and find that really amazing guy and have the time of your life.
Hope that helps a bit...