I have a really hard time making friends, but have been forcing myself to be a little more outgoing... Anyway. Usually when I exchange numbers with a girl that hangs out with me saying 'so yeah call me if you ever want to hangout again', they never do. Why is this? I feel like such a loser, I have no friends, and people are so cliche at my school.
I've done this like 3 times and no results. And one of the girl I see all the time on campus, and she just like basically ignores me. WTF?
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No, you're not a loser, it just takes more effort than that. Saying "call me sometime" is pretty open-ended and passive, so even if they had a good time, they'll probably either forget or feel really awkward calling. Try being more specific. After you hang out with someone, you could say, "Hey, this was really fun, it was great getting to know you a little more! What are you doing next weekend?" That way, by having something specific, the other person will be more likely to think of you and text you the night before with something like, "Hey, are we still on for tomorrow?" If not, then you can go ahead and take that initiative.
Initiating friendship is going to take just a little more work on your part, which can be strange and frustrating if you're not usually very outgoing. I would go with the rule of three. Give it three times, and if you've hung out with the person three times and they're still not reaching out to you, then cut your losses and move on. But just remember that it takes time.1