What is good first date touching? Is holding hands ok or touching the arm, etc?
I may be on a date with a girl soon, and I kind of wanted to do more flirting. I don't want it to seem like it's a "just friends" thing, but I don't really want to do anything like kissing super early. I kiss on the third or fourth date, but I think that by then a lot of girls will decide you're "just friend" material, so I wanted to make it so that it wasn't inappropirate but something that would clearly say "this is a cute "i like you" thing, and I don't want friendship" and still show interest until if we get to that moment.
I was talking with someone and she said this guy touched her arm on a date, and she hated it. He didn't go for a kiss either, and it was a good date until then.
I understand a few things are too far, (leg touching, groping, etc) and that much is obvious, but I wanted to see what was ok for a first date.
Holding hands too much?
I haven't dated for a long time, so I'm a little unsure to whether or not holding hands or touching the arm is bad for a sweet first date, and what's better for a second date, where if I touch her arm she won't freak out.
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Hmm, it all depends on the girl. Maybe she's reserved or very outgoing. I think if she's got a bubbly, open, very friendly personality some touching would be acceptable. Holding hands no offense I find is lame. That's like rigid date behavior.. so expected? You gotta make a girl feel comfortable, if she doesn't like hang holding you don't know that and she's not gonna tell you. Be gentlemenly like, girls love that offer your arm instead.
Also you have to break the touch barrier. Start it off with something VERY casual, like a brush on the arm or .. placing your fingers or hand on her arm when you're speaking very sincerely about something. That way she knows that you're behavior isn't forced but something that comes from the heart.
Once you break that touch barrier you can kick it up a knotch during the night. Find reasons to touch her.. maybe I like your ring/jewerely can I see it. I think having your body close to a girl will eventually get her feeling comfortable with you in her space. I duno how to explain it but think of real reasons/scenarios why you would touch a person. Like bumping into someone, being in a tight space/room (bodies close together).0