I am in a serious relationship it's three years now!
I recently met another woman, I now work with.
She and I connected instantaneously when we first met and I am highly attracted to her!
She recently found out that I have a girlfriend & she was upset with me! I am working on fixing that!
Nothing has happened yet but I do want her. What scares me is I love my girlfriend and want to marry her, but I also want to explore my feelings for this other woman.
I know these feelings are real, because when I think of being with her I want to make love to her & not just have sex!
I don't want to leave my girlfriend though. Is it possible to have strong feelings for more than one person?
Is it OK if I act on it? Am I an douche if I do?
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I completely agree what the two guys have answered so far- if you're still seeing new girls and becoming interested in them, or tempted to cheat with them then you're in no way ready for marriage. You're also not mature enough to handle the type of relationship you're in. Yes, of course you're a douche bag if you do anything with her while you're still with your girlfriend. You're clearly not ready for a long term, life time commitment.
If you really want her then break up with your current girl and go f*** the other chick. But if you do I promise you two things- 1. Your girlfriend will never take you back. Or she'd be a god damn idiot to do so because you're a d***. 2. Even if you don't regret it the pattern won't stop. You're not ready for a long term relationship, you're still in the "I want all the candy!" phase. You'll date her but sooner or later another girl will come along and you'll just run off with her.
Wanting sex is wanting sex. You can't tell you love someone because you want to do it gently. That's still lust, not love. Love is when you don't even think about sex, just about that person, making her smile, watching her laugh, no physical contact what-so-ever. Yes sex is a way to show love and appreciation but wanting to make love as opposed to f*** does not mean you love someone. Lust. That's all this is.
I feel bad for your girlfriend.0