Their is this guy that I have been seeing and in my heart I feel like he is not the one for me. I feel like at the end of our relationship I'm going to be heartbroken but because I'm falling so deep with feelings for him and I'm so comfortable around him, I don't want to ignore him. When it comes to relationships I set my standards high and he doesn't qualify for any of them. Just so you don't think I'm a shallow person I'll describe what I want and what he has.
I want someone who is college educated, working, stays out of trouble,etc.. things like that. Him on the other hand didn't finish high school, is in and out of jail, does things that in my heart I believe he can careless if he ends up back in jail. He has kids that he takes care of but he doesn't spend time with them. don't get me wrong, he's not a horrible person and I know he can be the best man for someone. I just don't feel he's the one for me. With that being said, its hard to ignore and stay away from someone your falling in love with.
I just want someone who I can spend the rest of my life with, not someone who's gonna be in and out. Anyways I'm 23 and I never had a boyfriend (weird, I know) and he's the only guy that I've been close with. The more and more I'm around him, the more I fall for him. Its sad to say but I recently had my first kiss with this guy. I'm so confused on what to do. I just need some advice from people who've been through this.
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I would talk to him and try to find out if he is ever going to change with his life.
If you think he will, then stay with him...Opposites def attract (YING&YANG) :D
But, if you think he will bring you down in life, then move on. I know the feeling..sort of..
and I would not be with my boyfriend still if he wasn't going to change his life..which he did..
sort of. I may still not be with him in the future though, if he decides to do the things again
that he has done before. As far as not making something of himself and bringing me down with
him. That will never happen. I won't let it. Because, I will break up with him first. IF you do not think you are strong enough to break it off with him if things get to the point where you have to..then I would break it off now..or keep my options open for something better to come along...OR talk to him about it..and tell him what you need and how you feel.
Best wishes xx0