Hey, I'm 24 and have had a sh*t ton of meaningless relationships, and about 2 or 3 meaningful, yet short relationships. My most recent has been going on for about 2 months (which is very long for me). I have been having a hard time with her still talking and "being friends" with her ex, whom she had a very messy break-up with and wanted him back for a long time. Anyways, she says she loves me and I love her, but I still don't think she is completely over him. and when they do hang out I tend to notice she puts an effort into her make-up... am I reading into this too much? Should I expect her to NOT make an effort? I don't want to be one of those guys who expect his girl friend to put her make-up on the shelf when I'm not around (Weezer). But I would never care about trying to impress an ex when I have a girlfriend I care about... maybe girls and guys are different on that front...
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Well, in my opinion, you shouldn't be friends with an ex, ESPECIALLY if you are in a relationship.
I don't know, that's just me. I know, I will be downed for with me saying that..but, oh well.
When she is putting more effort with her make-up, if you really are noticing this, then RED flag...it means she cares about her appearance more when she is with him.
I would tell her how uncomfortable you are about her being friends with him and with the mak-up.
If she doesn't understand, then I would put her in your shoes. How would you feel...you
know those things.
Best wishes xx0