It's ruining everything, I am 20 and I need to be in a relationship because I need to get married young and have babies young OK so the problem is I am just not meeting anyone who wants to date me or who I want to date... I graduated HS never having a boyfriend, but I figured I would meet a great guy in college, so I joined a sorority, so I would get to go to all the frats and mingle with those guys because they are hot and would have sex with me and then date me etc... Well I didn't really meet any hot guys I didn't have any sex so I eventually dropped my sorority. Then I got an internship for this semester that required me to move to a different city for a semester, so I figured, wow I will meet so many new people and I'll meet a guy while I am there... Has yet to happen (I have been hit on a few times by guys I am not interested in). So now my internship is ending in a few weeks and I haven't accomplished anything (like getting a boyfriend like I wanted) and I am going back to campus, well since I am no longer a sorority girl I don't really party as much and I am a commuter so its hard to drink because I have to find someone to take me home or something... I just don't know what to do I mean I am not interested in getting involved on campus. I want a hot guy to come up to me and just sweep me off my feet... So in a last ditch effort at finding a boyfriend and eventually a husband and baby's father I joined Plenty Of Fish and I went out on one date.. I wasn't interested in him, now I am going out on another date with this guy who is REALLLLYYYY sweet, but he isn't... hot, so I don't know I mean it's nice that he treats me good but I don't know if I can like someone who isn't hot... I am so torn I want to be in a relationship but I am picky.. but I need to just go out and do it because I am tired of not being in a relationship, and I REALLLLLYYYYYY need to have sex with someone before I turn 21. I just want to be someone's girlfriend, and have someone who can buy me gifts and eventually marry me and have sex with me (sex will for sure happen before the marriage, actually depending on the guy it maybe 2nd date lol) and have babies with.. what do I do? How do I meet guys and everything, I am panicking because I mean honestly like I am going to be alone forever, I haven't met anyone, all my friends have had like 3 or 4 boyfriends and I have had 1 that was long distance... I need to have a baby by at least 25. And I keep saying that "oh its OK I'll meet them in college, or at this internship or etc.." but I haven't and I am running out of places I could meet them now
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Well, the first thing is, I can smell the desperation from here.
And let me tell you, that smell is not attractive.
Second, you're after a husband/baby etc... as if they were an accessory. You haven't met a guy, fallen in love and want to marry him. You're going about it ass-backwards.
"have someone who can buy me gifts"
And you're not exactly looking with the most noble of intentions either.
"what do I do?"
To start? You need to grow up. Then you need to lose the stink of desperation.
Then finally, you need to start looking at the potential dating market as more than just an outlet for gifts and potential hubbies and babies.1