You may think I have a long time ahead of me to worry about relationships. But I wish I had been in at least one so I know what it feels like. So I could be intimate with someone I care about. I feel like its never gonna happen. Right now I feel like there's a gap in my life. An it feels like somethings missing. I'm not complete when I'm single. Even though you may think that being single is fun. I HATE it. I want someone to care about. My friends talk about sex and boys. I have no stories to tell. I feel like there's something wrong. Although its probably because I'm so SHY. I never used to be it happened now I've grown up. Maybe I'm meant to be alone. I don't get it. Guys I have liked are players and they don't want me unless I put out. An this one guy I liked was trying to see me whilst having regular sex with this girl. She follows him everywhere.
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I completely agree with you.
When I was taken, I felt tied down. When I broke up and thought "I'M FREE AGAIN!" a few days later, I'm beginning to miss someone's phone call or someone to care about me. (Obviously my parents care about me too, but what I meant is with someone else not related.)
Reading from your description, it seems like you are TRYING HARD to get a guy with you. Well most guys don't like to see a girl trying so hard to get noticed. In fact, for me, I normally talk to girls who are innocently sitting and studying their homework materials in the middle of campus... And I don't judge on how you look, but on first impression. First impression is always what makes things work out. If you give a bad vibe to someone who you first meet, most likely they will think you differently the next time you guys talk.
Maybe you should just take a step back and relax. Why do you want to be loved so much? Will being loved complete you? To be honest, since I've been dating in college, I'm really tired of breaking up and getting back with another girl, because I have to re-learn what this girl likes to do as a hobby, birthdays, etc. And could you imagine all the responsibilities you have to do to show that you care for him?
All I could tell you is that relationships are GOOD, but most of the positive things are a bit more exaggerated. Why settle for a romantic relationship when you're not even married yet... Isn't marriage for romance, and relationships just getting to know and try each other out? In traditional times, sex can only be performed if you were married, a relationship is when you can hold hands and (maybe) kiss, as it was THAT phase where you're just learning deeply about your partner... And then there's friends.
Whats better is just go to school, find the right guy who's smart and talented and you know will know how to support himself (most importantly) and stop worrying about love and sex so much. I also tell myself that once I'm done with college, I'll be living in a mansion with the most ideal girl as my wife... Believe it or not, good things happen, but its not because of constantly searching through the pool, but because people see you're awesome and fun be around with.
Cherish your friends more first. Because those are the people you truly want to be around with.0