Met a guy about 2 months ago, sweet, caring, smart and who treats me very well. After about a week of serious dating and deciding that we were only gonna see each other he tells me he is bipolar. I did some research, he told me about it, app he was diagnosed early but is off meds Because of their side effect. In general he seems pretty good at managing his disease - he can sense the diff phases before they appear and normally lets me know what's up.
Saturday he called and we decided to meet during Sunday as we hadn't been able to hang out for a few days (both had been busy). We kept texting during the evening and both were excited about meeting on Sunday. Sunday comes and goes, and I hear nothing. I called during the evening, no answer. Monday lunch I still haven't heard from him, so I send an email and a text (in case his phone got stolen) just to ask if he is OK. No answer. I tried calling one last time, no answer.
Obviously, I am wondering what happened. Is this the depression stage? (I have heard sometimes people with this disorder isolate themselves during depression) but more importantly, how should I react to this?
Should I go to his house to see if he is OK? (he has had suicidal thoughts before but seems reasonably stable nowadays) or is it better of I leave him alone until he feels better? Also, should I be understanding of this, if it is depression and bipolar causing this, or should I set limits. Having someone going AWOL on a relationship without any contact is ofc quite disruptive.
I'm going through quite a lot myself at the moment, having moved around the world and currently being in therapy, so the amount of energy that I can devote to someone else is limited. On the other hand, I do really care for him.
Any advice here?
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Tbh, he doesn't sound like the best guy. Even if he was bipolar it doesn't seem like he expressed any remorse for blowing you off (and people who are bipolar do experience remorse). I think he is trying to blame his diagnosis for things that shouldn't take that much out of him. If he can't keep a relationship I don't see how you can be with him in the long run0