Okay, I'm not talking about boys here. I'm talking about MEN. The kind of guys you refer to when you say "be a man" or "take it like a man." The independent, confident guys who are never caught dead whining about something. You all should know what I mean.
Well, I've been dating for a bunch of years now, and it seems like I always attract... well... whiners. My dad calls them "wimps." They are insecure and depend on me for confidence and happiness, and they agree with everything I say. It's nice for a while but after a while it's a huge turn off. I end up feeling kind of like a babysitter for them.
So I genuinely want to know:
1. Girls, are you dating/attracted to 'men' or 'wimps'? (Sorry, I really wish I could find a better name than wimps. Even though I personally don't like them, I'd rather not portray them in such a biased way. Forgive me!) Why do you prefer one to the other?
2. Boys, which category would you say you fall under? Why? How much success do you have with girls?
Thanks for answers! I'm just really curious if either of the categories have more success with dating than the other (and, as you know, GAG is a totally legit place for research).
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I was raised in a bit of an old fashioned way (not the women belong in the kitchen way though!), so my grandpa made sure to teach me that I am my own man, treat women with respect, show no respect to those who simply call themselves men because they have a d***, never let anyone walk over you, take only that which I have honestly worked for, hold true to my opinions and only make promises I can keep. How is my success with women? If getting with one no matter how much I like her would involve me trampling over my principles or the way I was raised, it's not gonna work out. I come from a very culturally traditional European family so I'll be sure to be the man that my ancestors would have wanted. Sure I make mistakes, but the difference is I acknowledge my mistakes and try to better myself.
I guess my success with women would be...average? Don't know what you would consider successful and why.
So as far as these categories go I'm not some macho poser douche bag neither am I a whiny kid. However, calling anybody a man who needs a woman to make himself feel like a one is laughable at best. True men are judged on their principles and their willpower to uphold those principles, nothing else.