I always see questions about first date don'ts such as talking only about yourself, texting/answering your cell phone, wanting sex, etc. but what are the do's on a first date?
Obviously asking the other person about them self and showing interest is a do but what else is there?
Guys and girls - what do you look for the other person to do on the first date? Actions, place(s), conversational topics, etc...
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Either pick her up or meet her there, don't have her pick you up.
Make sure you are dressed for the occasion.
Choose a date to make yourself stand out from the crowd. Search for interesting date ideas on the internet, or if she is the type of girl that tends to date cheap losers, take her out to a nice dinner. Be sure to let her know what the plan is so she can dress accordingly.
Ensure you are properly groomed. Be VERY thorough with this. Pay special attention to the face and hands.
Open doors for her, but don't make a show out of it, make it natural. If she opens a door for you, thank her with a smile.
Have some ideas in your head for conversation topics in case there is a lull in the conversation.
Ask open ended questions.
Ask her about things that she will like to talk about. This should be common sense, but some people just don't do it.
If there is food involved in the date, eat with manners, and go ahead and eat a normal amount of food, don't skimp. Your date doesn't want to eat more than you, and yes, women do think of that sort of thing.
When it comes to paying for things:
If you asked her out, you're paying. Many women will offer to pay or split the check as a matter of pride, but don't actually expect you to accept the offer. So if she offers, politely decline. If she INSISTS on splitting it, then it probably isn't an act and you should consent to avoid offending her. If she INSISTS on paying, compromise by splitting the check.
If she has asked you out, you should still try and pay, but if she offers to pay or split it, accept her offer.
Regarding the whole kissing thing, there are only two right ways to do this in my opinion. Either you go for it if you think the date went well and you think she wants you to, or if you aren't feeling it, you warmly smile and politely say goodbye and then walk away. Don't linger, don't hug (that's what friends do), just walk away with a confident stride.
When the date is over, play through it in your head. What did you talk about? Did she mention anything you should remember? She will be impressed if you remember her pet's name or some other small detail.
Call her the next day, I know some guys advocate waiting a few days, but if you played your cards right she should be anxious to hear from you. Tell her you enjoyed the date and that you should do something again soon.5