My boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago. From a 4 or 5 year relationship. Which if you know us the way we were felt like almost 10 years because of how long we knew each other. Because he wanted his space and wasn't happy. As well as he wanted to go out and be him. I mostly feel it was because of stressing out because of bills. So we remain friends, and now the tables of turned. Now I just want to have fun and relax and chill with different people. So I hang out with him and other people. But there is this one guy I am interested in and he likes me too. Is it bad that I'm trying to go out and have fun with both guys and not be in a relationship. I just don't want to be owned. Or deal with the stress of dating. And that's with mostly my ex did was stress me out so much. So much lies and hind stuff from me. And if I were to give him another chance I don't want to deal with the same stuff. I would like him to change a bit. And he's working on that, to better himself. Which is great. By the way he hasn't cheat on me. So is it bad to fool around with him and this other guy? Until I figure out what I want?
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I kind of agree with the other user, but I don't. If you're not in an exclusive relationship with either guy then there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. But you should tell them just so they know. You don't want to lead either guy on while you try and figure out what your looking for. Do you still love your ex? Sounds like he has come to senses about what he wants, and is fighting to get you back. Is that something that you want? 10 years is a long time, and guys have a tendancy of making some lousy choices. Maybe before you get your knee deep fooling around this the other guy, maybe you need to figure out if you would be willing to get your ex that chance to redeem himself. If he loves you, he will treat you like a queen.
I think that its a bad idea to be doing this and I would just be worried about breaking 1 of these guys hearts, and that a whole other issue to deal with. and your worried about the stress of dating. Your leading these guys on by fooling around with them, and 1 of them is going to come out really hurt. If you didn't have the ex, and you were just having fun and fooling around with a couple of random guys, I think it would be a much different situation.
To me, you sound confused, but it sounds like you still love your ex and your not over him. Maybe focus on that and see where it goes. The fact that he is trying says a lot. You 2 have a lot of history that would be a shame to lose.0