I started talking to this 23 year old guy from a certain western European country in July. We literally hit off and talked for 12-17 hours a day by instant messaging of course, because I was on summer break. We totally have everything in common and even our family situation is virtually the same. We were just friends until three months later when he "jokingly" proposed to me and asked if I liked him. I said, "yes" and that was that. So now we talk very flirtatiously and he even got me to go on Skype to strip for him just last week. He said he loves my body and likes me. Okay, that's fine, but no matter how I lead on to the question of what I am to him he says more than a friend and that he would love to actually spend time with me. Sitting that relationship aside; there is this boy that is almost 2 years younger than me (I'll turn 17 right after he turns 16). I have known him for going on three years I have felt attracted to him since the first time we met. I just recently found out that he also liked me since our first year of knowing each other. He has also said that we are about three years over due for dating. I'm not sure if he honestly likes me or is just finally coming out because said a few select words. I face the issue of choosing to date an older more educated man from Europe who connects with me on a whole different level and is a thousands of miles away, or a youngster that lacks maturity, but is here for me physically to (like hugging, nothing dirty) Guys and Girls please help. Your impute is always helpful. :) - Female 16 years of age
the older guy and I am still really good friends :)
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i'm sorry but your first situation sounds skeeetchy. I know, girls at this age usually prefer an older if not the same age guy. I know. but the thing is, this guy is in Europe, ok? you two are at completely different stages of life even though you connect on some sort of level. it doesn't seem right at all, even more so when you mention the fact that he got you to strip for him and you only met in July? tbh it sounds more like you're in lust or the IDEA of being in a relationship with an older man. it's a fantasy. did you at least see him on skype too?
For him, he's probably thinking that it's great that he has your attention and now that you've stripped for him, he can keep sweet talking you in order for you to do more. he says more than friends because he is sexually attracted to you, it doesn't mean that he wants a long distance relationship with you. also, girl, you're underage. doesn't that seem awkward to you at all? 16 and 23...stop denying it! at least if you were of age, the age gap would still be there but it wouldn't be as sketchy cause legally you'd be an adult.
the other guy, well, do you actually think that he is immature? is there something he does that just screams immature? is it too much immaturity for you? then don't date him. simple as that. if you say he is immature, primarily because of his age, I'd say just go for it.
so in conclusion: quit bringing your hopes up with this 23 year old in Europe and date the other guy if he's not too immature for your taste. it is the smartest thing to do.0