I'm quite a passive person. So is my boyfriend.
But he did something yesterday that really, really pissed me off. But I still like him very much. We're also kind of in a gray/purgatory zone between dating and relationship.
I kind of want to tell him, hey...that was kinda rude. But I feel like he'd ditch me. Of course, that means it was never meant to be. But aren't you afraid at all? to call him out on something but knowing full well that he will just think you're a b**ch?
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Nope, but we're not in "a gray/purgatory zone between dating and relationship." A strong, healthy relationship has a foundation that it's been built upon. So even in stormy weather, that foundation holds strong. No couple agrees on everything 100% of the time. There are bound to be misunderstandings and disagreements. And working through those times together builds a stronger bond in the long run. If you're relationship is so unstable that you have to worry about them dumping you over a disagreement, then that doesn't bode well for the relationship.
Of course there's a difference between arguing over something that's important to you and nagging and nitpicking over every little thing. Obviously if you do the latter any guy will eventually get sick of it. However, if it's something that matters then most guys will understand the need for the argument and won't think you're just being a bitch. If it's something important to you or that you see as a big deal the worst thing you could do is ignore it. Because if he starts to see you as a doormat, you'll get used and treated like one. If you want a healthy relationship then it's important for him to know that you will stand up for yourself when you need to. And if he calls you a bitch and/or breaks up with you over it then you'll know he's not the kind of guy you could be serious with anyway.1