We've talked a bit in college already and that's how I got to ask her out. She has trouble starting a conversation and people generally don't notice her that much. But she feels comfortable talking to me now. But when we run into each other in the hallways she usually smiles, blushes and say hello very silently.
Definitely not going to kiss her on the first date, I know that much. But I'm not sure what we can do. I'm taking her out for lunch but I've never dated a shy girl before so I don't really know what differences there are in the way they act on a date and stuff like that. She's also a few years younger than me.
Any advice is appreciated :)
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Coming from a shy girl, I can tell you not to pry too deep into personal or potential matters that would place pressure, particularly on the first date.
Definitely keep a casual, comfortable atmosphere-- perhaps start off by mentioning something about the restaurant. Gradually bring up other events: such as her hobbies, what she is studying/occupation, pets, family... mutual, neutral topics.
Be genuinely interested, and perhaps concerned (if it fits the moment.)
Never comment on her quietness. That goes for jokes, too.
I cannot begin to describe how awful it feels.
If there is any questionable weather (or even if there is not), it would be a great time to demonstrate some sort of chivalry; offer a jacket, run to get the car/other means of transportation, locate a forgotten item of her's, and so on.
It will very likely make her feel terribly awkward, if she is anything in resemblance to myself... but even so, it would warm her opinion of you greatly. She will not forget.0