I take the initiative. I approach guys first (mostly shy guys) first. I risk my heart and pride. And they only get thrown right back in my face. I always try to stay strong and be positive and try again but I'm tired. Sometimes I wonder if I was better off being one of those girls that just waited for things to happen to them. The old fashioned kind. Maybe I was wrong to think I should make opportunities instead of waiting for them. I just don't know anymore.
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Personally, I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to be the initiator. In fact, two of my past long-term relationships were with guys whom I walked up to and started talking to first. If you're just being nice and flirtatious and saying hello, a guy would have to be a huge jerk to not be thrilled by that.
Maybe it's the places you're trying to meet guys that is the problem, and/or the type of guy you're looking for? Maybe try to strike up a conversation somewhere you usually wouldn't, i.e. the grocery store or whatever. Plus, a guy who is shy can be a problem all by itself, because even if you initiate contact, he may never follow up on it even if he IS interested!
There's also nothing wrong with being one of "those girls" for awhile and sitting back, catching your breath, and letting the world come to you. I'm all for making your own opportunities happen, but sometimes we can try to hard and it can be good to take a little break to let the world catch up with us, and recharge ourselves.0