Basically I met this guy from a dating site, amazingly we really hit it off at the first meeting. Though we only planned for a coffee, it dragged on for several hours, then spilled into dinner, with him pushing back his plans to meet his buddies for drinks.
Long story short, he tried to kiss me several times, but I pushed him away, I told him he was going too fast. Later I also told him he was drunk and not to push it. (He was pretty tipsy, I was sober as I don't drink alcohol). I come from a reasonably conservative culture and I'm fairly reserved, and I didn't expect this (sudden strong emotion, him being pretty physical), so I was feeling very confused and unsure.
When we parted, he looked rather sad. I sent him an email a day later, saying I enjoyed his company but I was uncomfortable with his physical advances then. It might have been a bit harsh for a guy ? I hadn't really cooled off.
When I did, I felt really bad about how he must have felt, I did push him away several times. I sent him another email about a week after the meeting, saying I did like him and would have liked to see him again, and that I was sorry I pushed him away then, explaining I was uncertain and overwhelmed.
Anyway, I haven;t received any reply from him at all. I don't think I ever will hear from him again. But I wonder, do most guys react this way and just ignore if they can? Or would they have replied, however coldly? I'm 36 and this guy is 44.
Thanks all for the input, I did find it insightful. :)
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I don't know how I would have reacted to your second e-mail, but based on how the date ended, and your first e-mail, I would have just moved on as well.
I would normally expect a first date going well to end with a kiss at the least. A date that I thought was going super well, going on, being extended ... then a rejected kiss followed up by an e-mail saying you were uncomfortable with a kiss at the end of such a prolonged date ... I'd take it as 'she's not interested in me physically' and move on.2
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