So I met someone online and we've gone on 5 dates. We've made out and have done some touching, but no sex until we're official (which I told him). We haven't gone out in 2 weeks because of school and he's out of state for the holiday. We still text, but I can feel things have cooled (probably because of my no-sex-until-we're-official policy). He had asked me on our 3rd date if I was seeing anyone else and I wasn't at the time.
Since I have a long holiday weekend, I'm going on a 1st date with someone new. I also met him online and he knows I've been seeing someone for the past month. It's just a 1st date and I'm not gonna get physical with this guy (no kissing, hand-holding, nothing).
If and when I do see guy #1 again, should I tell him I went on a date with someone else? How should I go about telling him? And will this light a fire under guy #1's ass to make things official or will it get me in hot water?
I'm not dating someone new with the intent of lighting a fire under anyone's ass. I'm doing it because I'm unattached, I have the time and because I can.
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You should probably have told him AS SOON AS you accepted the date with the other guy, especially since he made a point of asking you at the start of your relationship.
He might also wonder why you only chose to date a new person once he was out of town. It looks like you're either not trustworthy or just trying to taunt him in some way for not "being official".
It looks like a game of some sort. You owe it to him to play with a firm set of rules, not just with whatever rules you feel like using at any given time...9