I have text 3 times over the last 4 days, he hasn't responded to me (one of those texts was a happy Thanksgiving text). Should I text again? Or what?
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I think that you have to try several ways (not all at once) to contact him.
When they make no effort to be seen or heard from (even by mutual friends), and never plan anything or initiate any contact for months, then it shows that they're not interested in maintaining much of a friendship.
Another one of my friends IS a very busy person. But, I feel that since her wedding, we've gotten CLOSER as friends, which is the opposite of how it usually goes. But WE make an effort. She'll plan things and invite me there; We're closer because we make an effort and that little time to hang out is "special." But I don't feel ignored if I haven't spoken to her or seen her in three weeks.
3 texts in my opinion, is not necessarily grounds for immediate dismissal.
I won't always respond to a text. I'm not a big "texting" kind of guy, and I have a limited, crummy phone (I want to be clear that I do try to respond, but that I don't always respond via text).
I suppose for me it depends on the level of the relationship, the time, and what it's about.
"Hey, we're going to the 5:15 showing of this movie", if you call him that day, he may not respond. And it may (to him) make sense that he doesn't respond; if he's busy until 6pm and checks messages then, the event has already passed.
You might consider waiting a week, then try calling him. Wait a few days, then call again (don't sound angry on the phone); A week, week and a half later, try an email for another event. THEN if he doesn't respond, he's a bit flaky, and you can leave the ball in his court.