dating guy a couple of months we hang out once a week but unlike my other friends whose guys they're talking to every day even if it's still casual, he doesn't contact me every day...usually only contacts me to make plans for date that week and maybe an occassional text here and there but that's it. when we hang out it's great and we talk for hours...but then back to nothing but scraps. I've initiated a few texts but it never really gets anywhere. I kinda don't get it. we have been intimate the last couple of times we hung out so that makes this very upsetting to me. before we were intimate I figured things were just going kinda slow but I was fine with that...but now I feel if he were really into me he'd contact me more. am I right? or blowing it out of proportion at this point?
Guy I'm dating doesn't call or even text me every day. Is he not into me?
What Guys Said 3
If you're 30-35 and this guy is 30-40 then I'm going to say he's not the social media d-bag generation and he can enjoy his alone time and probably focuses on work.
Personally when I'm at work or busy, leave me the hell alone. I will talk to you when I can, but give me some space.0
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he might not want to scare you or even know that you would like to talk to him more - Have you told him or dropped hints? It might just be the way he was raised. I always was in a rush to get off the phone due to the fact that both of my parents ran a different business out of the house and I grew up saying what had to be said and hanging up. It annoyed my wife when we were first dating.0
What Girls Said 3
You thought that getting intimate would rush things in other departments of your relationship? That was your first mistake, intimacy and physical things usually rushes the relationship in the wrong way. It usually slows down any form or emotion, including talking regularly to get to know each other more. I think you should talk to him though. He could be busy or doesn't feel like that's what you want. But if you want to talk to him on a regular basis then you're qualified for that since you have been dating for awhile. Just talk to him. Communication is key.1
My gosh, no, no, no! You are so afraid of appearing needy that you give up your healthy sense of entitlement. Yes you heard me right, you are entitled to want to feel connected!!! We all need to feel valued, needed, care for, and respected. You are so afraid of losing him that you can't even communicate your needs in a relationship to him? This isn't healthy, if he cannot or is unwilling to give you what you need to be happy in a relationship for whatever reason, you need to dump him and find someone who is willing. Don't settle for something who blow you the hot and cold. You ought to be cherished. Just because you feel strongly about him doesn't mean he is invested in you, you need to value yourself. Tell him nicely, communicate to him what your needs are!0
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