I just went out with a wonderful guy the other night..well things went a bit too far and he ended up giving me oral sex! He didn't want it in return though, odd! Anyways he texted me the next morning saying hey how are you? I replied and said to him, I hope you didn't get the wrong impression of me last night, I typically don't do that ...he replied with no cause for concern...it's been a day and I haven't heard anything from him...
What's going on here...did I get played?
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This might sound strange but give it some thoughts before you criticize me.
I hate it when girls don't stand behind their actions.
They make out or have sex with a guy and the next day say "I usually don't do that" or "I was drunk" bla bla but we all know you wanted it just as bad as us.
Girls often pretend they have been "Tricked" into having sex with a guy to save their own reputation (avoid being called a slut).
I really hate these double standards women have: Have sex with you and then pretend to regret it and try to convince me that "They don't usually do this"
I always follow my lust, simple as that. Lust doesn't lie> if you want something, you go after it.
It's ridiculous to be blaming it on something else besides your lust the next day.
So in my case, if a girl tells me this it's a huge turn off.
Since I figure a few things:
- She's indirectly telling me I "Tricked" her, so putting the blame on me instead of viewing it as a good time together
- She's to insecure to be upfront about her sexual desires and insecurity is a huge turn off as well.
For those above reasons I usually tend to stay away from girls like that until they have figured out what they want.
In my experience they usually come back though but I tell them upfront about what I think about their behaviour before getting sexual with them again.
Instead of saying "I don't usually do this" which puts the WHOLE night in a negative aspect say something like "Hey last night was fun. How was your day?" which is MUCH more positive and likely to have me set up a next date.
Most guys, especially those with little women to choose from don't mind however and will simply play along with you. But the ones like me can lose interest very fast trough little things because they always have other girls on the side that they can still go too if you are being a turn off. They never think it's their loss so they can cut off communication with you fairly easily and it's up to you to double your efforts to get them back.
I don't know this guy personally so it's hard for me to tell in what category he falls but I have a hunch that he's a womanizer for the following reasons:
- he's "wonderful" in your eyes, so he knows how to attract women and is aware of this
- He's not afraid to escalate sexually, so he has done it many times before
- He's not desperate to get a blowjob so he's either used to it or likes to tease women (by licking you and not having sex) in either case. It seems like he knows what he's doing.
But the lesson learned: DO NOT put "last night" in a NEGATIVE perspective.
Let him know you had a great time and want to meet up sometime again.
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