She sent this message but later said she was kind of drunk. Is she right?
"If you want tough advice, here it is... Please don't get mad ^^;
Most girls don't want to actually date guys like you. You might have the cool style and talking down, and you're tallish and but most women don't like unassertive men. You don't ask girls if it's OK to kiss or what their 'boundaries' are, you figure that out yourself. Never tell any woman you were sexually assaulted by a man. Or that you're a virgin over the age of 25. No offense but most women will assume you are gay or a coward.
Honestly, only total power bitches like guys like you. You're easily controlled and no other women will look twice at you, so you don't threaten their locus of control. Independent women don't want men that eat dinner with their mother and have 'cooking' listed as a hobby on Facebook, let alone feel the need to text their 'girlfriend' (dating for 4 months without sex?) You need to man the hell up and stop acting like you're gay"
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idk what context this conversation was in but ole girl was pretty harsh
but I do agree with some things she said. I'm a girl that doesn't like unassertive men, it comes off like your unsure of yourself and weak. a guy doesn't have to ask me if he's allowed to kiss me. my boyfriend my freshman year of HS did that and I told him it wasn't necessary. you'll know when I DONT want you to kiss me lol.
she was wrong about never telling a woman about sexual assault, I would never think a guy was a gay or a coward just because that happened to him. I don't hold sexual assault against anyone, it wasn't your fault and you shouldn't be faulted for something you can't control. she was wrong for that. I would however save that personal information for a woman your are very close with, like your wife or fiance.
a guy doesn't really need to tell me he's a virgin. your sexual business is your own and my mind would start to wonder why he hadn't had sex then. you can say the reason WHY you're a virgin: probably trust issues, insecurity, afraid of intimacy? but again that's something shared with someone very trustworthy and close to u
If I know I can control a guy I won't respect him. like the type of guy I can say "jump" and he says "how high?" if you are not assertive, then you should take steps to becoming that way. docility isn't attractive0