I've been seeing this guy for 2 months now. We have incredible chemistry, and everything seems to be going really well. He works 12 hour days, but still finds time for me during the week, and every Saturday night and Sunday morning. He'll cook me dinner and breakfast... He goes out of his way for me, and the way he looks at me, and the way is with me after we have sex tell me that he cares.
BUT: We met online... He still checks the site that we met on, which I can't really complain about, since I obviously do to (to see if he's been logging in... stupid, I know). So that's fine I guess, seeing as we haven't talked about exclusivity yet... But another weird thing is, he still hasn't accepted my friend request on Facebook, and I know that he's logged in since I sent it...
So what's up? Why won't he add me to Facebook? Am I being played? It seems like that would be almost impossible, since he spends more than half of his free time with me, and often calls me on nights when we can't see each other, before he goes to bed, or when he's leaving work.
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Um...I hate to say it, but you could still be being played, because I know guys like that.
He may not be quite as into you as you think he is.
Some guys are very good at making an impression so it looks like they care, because that obviously works to their advantage. It's learned behavior. It may not even be that he is trying to play you, just that it kind of comes natural to him to act a certain way. He may not even know how he feels about you.
Of course, this deception may not be entirely his fault, since you may be projecting your own feelings to how you think he should feel about you. How you feel he treats you after having sex with him is not a good indicator of how much he cares.
The fact is there is a reason he is holding back. Whatever that reason is, your relationship with him lacks trust. I am also surprised that you've been with him for 2 months, and not even managed to ask him why he didn't add you on Facebook? Why? If you want to have a strong relationship with him, you need to be able to ask him simple questions like that. Otherwise, you are both hiding things from each other and being kind of fake.1
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